How to Talk to Your Toddler
January 25th, 2010 by phyllis
If you have small children, this will be of interest to you. You know when toddlers start expressing their independence by saying NO… how frustrating and annoying it is?
Chris Thompson’s audio series is very comprehensive and easy to follow. He shows you new ways of interacting with your toddler that helps you be involved and discipline them in a positive way. Learning not to use “no” or yelling at your child are invaluable tools for creating a loving, caring relationship with your child while disciplining them.
You can even sign up for a free audio lesson before you buy. Here are his 3 key points from that free audio lesson. By the way his approach compliments the positive discipline approach I teach in my online parenting class for preschoolers.
1) Always speak in positive terms rather than negative terms. If your child is doing something and you want them to stop, tell them what you do want them to do rather than saying “Stop doing that” (whatever “that” is). You’ll have more success because of the way the unconscious mind processes sentences.
2) Raise your voice only when you absolutely must. Raising your voice too often will result in your child being conditioned not to respond. The brain unconsciously looks for differences, so if you yell too often, it will be seen as normal and therefore ignored. Instead, you need to reserve yelling for times when it is truly necessary so that it is seen as different. This is so important, and all of the the other skills I teach you in the Talking To Toddlers program will give you solutions that don’t involve yelling.
3) Get good at entering your child’s world. When you are about to ask your child to do something that you suspect is not going to get an easy “yes answer”, you need to gracefully enter their world. For example, say you are about to get your child changed into pyjamas for bedtime, but your child is occupied with something and is likely to put up a fight.
Instead of saying, “Ok, time to put your pyjamas on”, go over and get involved with what your child is doing and make a few statements that you know will be in agreement with your child’s inner experience. You could say, “It’s fun to play with this toy, isn’t it”. These kinds of comments will get you into their world. Once you have entered their world, you can gracefully pull them towards what you want them to do.
With a 60 day money back guarantee you really have nothing to lose. You can choose from the inexpensive mp3 versions or the CD version of Talking to Toddlers: Dealing with the Terrible Twos and Beyond. Well worth the time for listening and the price you pay for the series.
